What to Do When Your Teenager is Stood Up



Posted: Sunday, October 04, 2009

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jellybabys

All Dressed Up and Nowhere to Go:

It can happen ... to both your son and your daughter alike ...

Your child gets ready for a big date and ends up being stood up. The other teen who your child has scheduled a date ends up not showing or cutting out without any notice your own teenage child. Odds are that at some point in your own life you have experienced such a dreadful turn of events.

If you face a point in time when your teenager has a planned date that doesn't pan out because the other teen does not show or what have you, there are some steps that you can take to make the situation more easily managed by your child.

First of all, you really can be a bit proactive in regard to this potential problem. When it comes time for your child to start dating, you may want to share with your teen some of the good and some of the bad experiences you had in your own dating career. This can include letting your child know about any occasion when your own planned date failed to appear.

Second, when your child ends up being left at the stoop by a date, do not swoop down on your child immediately. Your teenager is going to feel bad on a number of levels. Included in these emotions will be a sense of embarrassment. Therefore, in the immediate aftermath of such an occurrence, give you teen some space. But, in doing so, let your teenager know that you are around, know that you are available to talk when your child feels up to it.

Third, do not make light of the situation. Do not make a statement like win some, lose some or anything else to that effect. While an adult might might be able to make light of being stood up by a prospective date, a teenager typically has not reached point in his or her life that he or she will feel like joking about the situation in its immediate aftermath.

Finally, do not immediately encourage your teenager to go out and find someone else to go out on a date with after a situation like that described in this blog post. Yet another statement you do not want to make is something to the effect that there are other fish in the sea. Yes, this is the case. But, immediately after a date that was planned not transpiring, this is yet another thing that your teenager is not going to want to hear.

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» left by Marijo Phelps
 2 years 128 days ago.
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Might save the teen a lot of grief to find out that person was rather unreliable right then rather than later in the relationship but I am sure that doesn't help at the moment - your suggestions do! Marijo
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